The Royal Children's Hospital Melbourne says young children are still developing the parts of the brain that help them manage strong emotions and calm themselves down. It also says behaviour is a form of communication. Emerging Minds says a tantrum is not something a toddler plans or chooses to do. It is a sign their body is overwhelmed by a need or feeling they can't explain.
The Royal Children's Hospital Melbourne says to focus on being with your child in the moment before trying to change their behaviour. It suggests getting down to your child's eye level, speaking in a calm, steady voice and staying close. When your child is frustrated or overwhelmed, it says their brain is in a state where it is hard to listen, think clearly or follow instructions. Emerging Minds says showing your child you understand what they are feeling helps them feel loved and safe.
The Royal Children's Hospital Melbourne says children need boundaries to feel safe. It says boundaries help them understand what is expected of them and what will happen next. It also says routines may help your child feel more secure and less frustrated. It says acknowledging your child's efforts, not just the outcomes, will help them feel capable and supported while they are still learning new skills.
The Royal Children's Hospital Melbourne says you may wish to seek more support if your child is often very distressed, if their behaviours are intense, frequent, getting worse or affecting their daily life, or if you feel overwhelmed as a parent. It says to start by speaking with your child's doctor, who may refer you to a specialist in paediatrics or mental health. Emerging Minds says to call a parent helpline if you are finding it hard to cope with your own feelings or your child's emotions or behaviours.
It can. The Royal Children's Hospital Melbourne lists sudden emotional or angry outbursts, tantrums or meltdowns among the signs of anxiety. If your child seems overly worried or anxious, or feels anxious most of the time, the Royal Children's Hospital says to start by speaking with your child's doctor or another trusted healthcare provider.